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The Ice Queen

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Why is it that some devious mothers find pleasure in mentally castrating their sons when they’re still boys, so it leaves them unable to acknowledge and recognise the difference between manipulation and unconditional acceptance later in life as adults? Why is it that these women choose their own ego over the wellbeing of their child and scar them for life instead?

The victims -of course- don’t realise most of the time that they’ve become a copy of the manipulative and destructive ways of what was supposed to be a good role model mum. She created a man with the -still attached- umbilical cord wrapped around his throat, ready to slowly suffocate him whenever she isn’t pleased with him…

She never needed words to show her disapproval of the other girls and women in her son’s life. She taught him instantly while he was still a baby; she would turn into the ice queen whenever he did something ‘wrong’. Her cold-hearted behaviour rubbed off well and over time all it would take was silence or a certain look to cause the guilt.

She created the perfect ‘Pavlov’s dog’ by changing a unique human being into nothing but a conditioned reflex, a mirror image of herself: unable to love, unable to feel, unable to commit, unable to be his true nature. He’s just a sad reflex consumed by extremes, money, lust, career and superficial and conditional behaviour towards those around him.

If he’s lucky, the boy will learn what is real one day, the moment the adult in him opens up to someone who represents the exact opposite of his superficial hag of a mum. Perhaps he’ll start to heal and learn to accept the new and unconditional, and steer clear of the unhealthy relationship and the damage it’s causing, it will be the finale of the worship.

Perhaps he will finally cut the cord and see through the evil deceiving scheme. She no longer will be able to provoke the guilt-ridden boy in him and he’ll be free from the chains, free to learn what real qualities are in life. And he’ll realise and learn that no amount of money will be able to compensate for what he’ll experience next and how disconnected he was from his true nature.

Blog Action Day 2008 – Poverty

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I believe that if some would have a different attitude there would be less poverty in this world. I believe that if some would be less materialistic, things could change. Look at the current financial situation that we’re in. Isn’t that proof of the attitude that most have these days? Exceed your standards, buy things that you don’t really need and most of all spend money that you don’t have because you really need that bigger house and you really need that gas-guzzling SUV so the neighbours will realise that you’ve ‘made it in life’…

To me, this race for bigger, better and most expensive seems so pathetic and so narrow-minded. Do you really need more than one car? Do you really need more than one house? Do you really need a vacation twice a year? Do you really need to spend money that you basically don’t have? See where it got us? No? Just check the news… Worse, there are people out there who really really need all the help they could get. Don’t you see that being just a tad less egocentric, materialistic and greedy could make a huge difference?

I’ve seen people close to me struggle not knowing if they would be able to buy enough food for one week or even a day, not knowing if they could feed their children. I’ve always counted my blessings realising that I was fortunate not having to be in their shoes, but I would share and made sure they would be fine. I was taught by my parents to save money for something that you’d want: you save until you can afford to buy it. I was taught to give to others and share what you had and I’ll always be grateful for this valuable lesson.

So I don’t get the attitude because I was taught to see things from a different perspective and not try to pull the wool over somebody’s eyes. What you see is what you get, I don’t feel the need to pretend and I don’t feel the need for so called ‘bigger and better‘. I was taught to be contented with what I’ve got which doesn’t mean there is no room for improvement or one can’t strive for quality. It’s about finding the balance and trying to care for others as well, about sharing what you don’t need with those who are really needy.

These days, what can be found in people’s hearts and attitudes: the ego and the lack of awareness isn’t that the real poverty?

Blog Action Day 2007 – The Environment