About Expats

There’s something about certain expats that seems to push the wrong button at times. I’m registered with a few of these expat websites and every now and then I’ll pay them a visit and click links of other expats living either in London or Amsterdam [or elsewhere]. Just out of curiosity and in search of a bit of entertainment. This is how I met a few really nice people online who can be found in my expat list below. I started reading their blogs because there was something nice to read, a positive, friendly and non-quitter attitude.

Of course expats have a right to complain about certain things in their host country but when a person is only slagging off each and every single aspect of the host country then it causes question marks in my head. Especially if it is about the Lowlands or about the UK. I’m not patriotic, I left the Lowlands for a reason but I wouldn’t say it was that bad as some would want us to believe, same here in the UK. I feel that if you decide to move, you should adjust to the host country and try your utter best to integrate.

I read several blogs and was surprised to see how some are capable of posting one nasty complaint after another about the host country and praising their home country like it’s paradise on earth. Time for a wake-up call perhaps? I’m tempted to leave a comment asking why they don’t go back ‘home’ if they hate it that much, but I contain myself *most of the time*. Over the weekend I ended up on this website of an American family who’d moved to London, I read a post about Halloween written by the mother.

What struck me was that she was slagging off the fact that people in the UK/London, don’t celebrate Halloween, they were called mean because they had signs on their door letting people know that they won’t answer it. Question that pops up: what’s wrong with honesty…? It was then implied that Halloween was typical American; the Brits could learn a thing or two. Now this is where I start to feel the button being pushed… It was the tone in that post accompanied by a picture of the sign mentioned above.

It’s the arrogance: not everything in this world is American or about America you see… If she would’ve known the facts she should’ve said it was originally an Irish celebration, which is older than the history of the USA. *Ughh* I can’t really blame her though, Europeans tend to leave the kind of heritage information out that goes back more than two generations, that’s because we have a history that extends way beyond 1776 and we most certainly don’t feel the need to keep reminding everyone with each possible occasion.

There also seems to be an extreme gap between those expats who only need to follow hubby’s well-paid career path and entertain themselves [see example above] and those who made an independent decision to make the move, which clearly shows a divergence in attitudes and people, but perhaps that’s a different post altogether.

Blog Action Day 2008 – Poverty

I believe that if some would have a different attitude there would be less poverty in this world. I believe that if some would be less materialistic, things could change. Look at the current financial situation that we’re in. Isn’t that proof of the attitude that most have these days? Exceed your standards, buy things that you don’t really need and most of all spend money that you don’t have because you really need that bigger house and you really need that gas-guzzling SUV so the neighbours will realise that you’ve ‘made it in life’…

To me, this race for bigger, better and most expensive seems so pathetic and so narrow-minded. Do you really need more than one car? Do you really need more than one house? Do you really need a vacation twice a year? Do you really need to spend money that you basically don’t have? See where it got us? No? Just check the news… Worse, there are people out there who really really need all the help they could get. Don’t you see that being just a tad less egocentric, materialistic and greedy could make a huge difference?

I’ve seen people close to me struggle not knowing if they would be able to buy enough food for one week or even a day, not knowing if they could feed their children. I’ve always counted my blessings realising that I was fortunate not having to be in their shoes, but I would share and made sure they would be fine. I was taught by my parents to save money for something that you’d want: you save until you can afford to buy it. I was taught to give to others and share what you had and I’ll always be grateful for this valuable lesson.

So I don’t get the attitude because I was taught to see things from a different perspective and not try to pull the wool over somebody’s eyes. What you see is what you get, I don’t feel the need to pretend and I don’t feel the need for so called ‘bigger and better‘. I was taught to be contented with what I’ve got which doesn’t mean there is no room for improvement or one can’t strive for quality. It’s about finding the balance and trying to care for others as well, about sharing what you don’t need with those who are really needy.

These days, what can be found in people’s hearts and attitudes: the ego and the lack of awareness isn’t that the real poverty?

Blog Action Day 2007 – The Environment