Tag Archives: Attitude

Shoo Shoo

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I’m wasting my time reading stuff about friends or people in general on the internet or FB. There’s no point reading all that stuff, tho it’s relaxing in a way it also has a downside to it besides lost time. I’ve decided that whilst I’m enjoying time off from having to look for a new project, I should be using this period to clean out boxes and throw away stuff I no longer want or need in my life.

I’ve forgotten to get rid of clutter and people, so it’s time that I’d practise some more. It’s rewarding… The weird thing is that whenever I clean out the old, new stuff comes in at an even faster rate. Good new stuff tho but still. I’ve been listening to NLP CDs again, lessons that helped me reach my goal a few years ago when I’d moved back to NL and had to start from scratch.

These CDs tell me lots of valuable info on how to organise your brain so that whatever it is you wish for will happen. It’s about clutter in your life, wrong people, attitude, belief and that you need to surround yourself with those who are positive, supportive and encouraging. Those who add to the creative flow instead of taking from it only. So I guess that’s why I’m in this modus once again.

I’ve found a way to make my new plans work, but in order to achieve this I will certainly have to make room to make this happen *literally*! I should stop reading about others because -according to science reports- reading about others on FB is not a healthy thing to do. It leads to comparison which leads to having feelings of unhappiness and in the worst case, resentment and/or jealousy.

I’m not jealous, I do feel like it’s a waste of time though so I’ve stopped the habit. Instead I’ve started cleaning out boxes and throwing out things I don’t need. Space… I need space in my head and in my life. I’m working on furniture projects this time which is awesome and fun. A start of something bigger along with the jewellery designs. So more energy should flow into that direction!

Whilst I’m thinking about how to decorate the furniture using really cool techniques, I’m also thinking about how to finish the necklace that I’ve designed. So far I’ve had amazing reactions. People who are eager to see the finished items. So there it is: whilst I still have time, I should clean out and once that’s done there will be energy ready to finish what I like to do most!

I’m on a high ;) so I guess I should continue cleaning out those boxes and tonight I’ll be working on cutting out Asian patterns out of paper to decorate the furniture with. Yes I know I sound vague, that’s because it’s an evolving idea and whilst typing this I feel the urge to stop the writing and finish what I should be finishing *hehe*. So I’m gonna stop writing this post now :D

Friends… Take Thought

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Friends, are supposed to stick around through thick and thin… Friends, are supposed to be there for you when you hang your head because things are tough… Friends, are supposed to support you when you feel lost and you’re struggling to find the path again… Friends, are supposed to show they believe in you whenever you’ve forgotten how to believe in yourself… Friends, are those who keep their promises no matter what…

Friends are not those who don’t stay in touch with you because you no longer are the warm-hearted one who lives abroad. So the novelty has worn off along with the imaginary neon hotel sign that offered a free stay including food and drinks. They’re definitely not those who owe you a large sum of money ever since you moved abroad and who are now refusing any cooperation to pay back the debt knowing you’ve been waiting for four years whilst putting your trust in them to meet the obligations.

Friends are also not those who don’t have the word ‘courtesy’ in their vocabulary, who keep making promises but never keep their word or lack the decency to even say ‘thank you’ whenever you made the effort to do something extra. Nor are friends the ones who can’t be bothered to ask how you’re doing. Or who refuse to send/reply -on a regular basis- to your emails or those who don’t show that they actually care about you and what is going on in your life by simply being interested.

I quoted in a comment not too long ago, it was part of something I read online: When people who profess to be our friends don’t behave in these ways, we feel angry and betrayed. Perhaps they were never our friends at all. Perhaps they were only out to use us. But our faulty expectations may have caused us to perceive them as being more committed to true friendship than they really were. I’m sure that is true but it can’t be that I’ve been deceived by certain friends for over 10 years right? What did I miss?

A professional said to me: why would you call a person a friend if he or she refuses to pay the money they owe you? Why are you still being nice and trying to only look at things from their perspective and not your own? And that was just one example that I’d told him about but I knew he was right. He hit the nail on the head… I’m changing: a shift in attitude and taking action, I’m tired of so-called friends. There’s one loose end still and I’m gonna get a solicitor over time to fix that, I’ve already been to one.

Don’t get me wrong… There are still a few left who do care, it’s something that doesn’t need reassurance and I treasure these few and they know this because I have told them. They have been there through thick and thin in every possible shape: a beautiful handwritten letter, a personal gift with just the right words, a phone call and/or some emails. Some from abroad some from the Lowlands. Some from people I haven’t met in real life *just yet*.

But they’re in my heart and perhaps I should tell them again how much I appreciate them!

© (?) – Thank you for being a true friend!