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Shoo Shoo

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I’m wasting my time reading stuff about friends or people in general on the internet or FB. There’s no point reading all that stuff, tho it’s relaxing in a way it also has a downside to it besides lost time. I’ve decided that whilst I’m enjoying time off from having to look for a new project, I should be using this period to clean out boxes and throw away stuff I no longer want or need in my life.

I’ve forgotten to get rid of clutter and people, so it’s time that I’d practise some more. It’s rewarding… The weird thing is that whenever I clean out the old, new stuff comes in at an even faster rate. Good new stuff tho but still. I’ve been listening to NLP CDs again, lessons that helped me reach my goal a few years ago when I’d moved back to NL and had to start from scratch.

These CDs tell me lots of valuable info on how to organise your brain so that whatever it is you wish for will happen. It’s about clutter in your life, wrong people, attitude, belief and that you need to surround yourself with those who are positive, supportive and encouraging. Those who add to the creative flow instead of taking from it only. So I guess that’s why I’m in this modus once again.

I’ve found a way to make my new plans work, but in order to achieve this I will certainly have to make room to make this happen *literally*! I should stop reading about others because -according to science reports- reading about others on FB is not a healthy thing to do. It leads to comparison which leads to having feelings of unhappiness and in the worst case, resentment and/or jealousy.

I’m not jealous, I do feel like it’s a waste of time though so I’ve stopped the habit. Instead I’ve started cleaning out boxes and throwing out things I don’t need. Space… I need space in my head and in my life. I’m working on furniture projects this time which is awesome and fun. A start of something bigger along with the jewellery designs. So more energy should flow into that direction!

Whilst I’m thinking about how to decorate the furniture using really cool techniques, I’m also thinking about how to finish the necklace that I’ve designed. So far I’ve had amazing reactions. People who are eager to see the finished items. So there it is: whilst I still have time, I should clean out and once that’s done there will be energy ready to finish what I like to do most!

I’m on a high ;) so I guess I should continue cleaning out those boxes and tonight I’ll be working on cutting out Asian patterns out of paper to decorate the furniture with. Yes I know I sound vague, that’s because it’s an evolving idea and whilst typing this I feel the urge to stop the writing and finish what I should be finishing *hehe*. So I’m gonna stop writing this post now :D

Out with The Old in with The New

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My ‘friend’… I don’t mind seeing you go since it seems you are in denial of my happiness, my life, my job and everything that defines me. When I sense envy instead and reluctance to nurture the relationship, than I guess you were right to be so quick to ‘unfriend’ and ‘block’ me on Facebook, for pointing this out to you. I guess the truth hits hard a times… :roll:

You barely respond to my emails not to mention react on the things that -you know- are important to me. You refuse to reply to my comments left for you on FB and instead turn this into a one-way street where all you do is absorb the attention you get from others. Life is not just about you. Perhaps that is a tough thing for you to grasp but it ain’t. Wake up call!

It’s sad that it has to be like this after such a long time, but I guess I haven’t been happy with the friendship nor with you and your reactions for a while now, but each time you’ve managed to brush it off. If you don’t want to be an active part of the communication process, it’s time for me to leave the relationship behind and gladly move on.

Yes I feel sorry for you that a certain issue in your life is happening and that you are scared of what the future will bring for you and your children. But it doesn’t mean that the world revolves around you and you only. Every person on this planet has got his or her own problems. You either deal with it or you don’t but don’t expect the ostrich attitude from me.

If you want others to be there for you when you need them, it might be wise to at least show some interest and care in case the day will come where you need them. I guess the fact that you immediately ‘unfriended’ and blocked me -after I told you my truth and how I felt about the situation-, says it all really. It was the kind of confirmation I was expecting.

It made me chuckle… As did your question about where my blog had gone? (..) It has been here since about ‘forever’… If you would’ve been interested in my life thus this blog, you would’ve known. So yes, that question seriously raised my eyebrow. I no longer feel comfortable being myself or sharing parts of my life with you, so it’s time to move on.

I have revalued my expectations and this friendship and I’m thru, I’m not your doormat whenever it suits you nor will I be your Facebook self-esteem booster whilst you play your well performed attention-seeker role. I’m actually quite happy with the way you left things; fact is that my personal growth has completely outgrown you and this friendship.

Thanks for making that perfectly clear, I can let go of something I’ve tried to hold on to for way way too long! It now can be replaced by something bigger and more beautiful :)

I do not open up the truth to one who is not eager to get knowledge, nor help out any one who is not anxious to explain himself. When I have presented one corner of a subject to any one, and he cannot from it learn the other three, I do not repeat my lesson.